I never got that memo!
This post is for all the mom’s to be, future mom’s to be and Mom’s…
As I start to ponder the idea of having another child I start to think about how awful being pregnant is (at least for me). Now, some may beg to differ, but I didn’t like being huge, swollen, tired and wine-free for 9 months.
There were a lot of things about pregnancy and birth that I felt were never covered in all of the millions of pregnancy books that I read. SO… I will go ahead and spill the beans and if you feel like you want to add some important information please feel free to add your stories to this post.
I found out I was pregnant 2 weeks before a sales trip to NAPA…yes, folks, NAPA! You can imagine how bummed I was, but also super excited to be carrying Harper. Well, all was good the first month or so and then the TIRED bug hit me. I don’t remember ANYONE telling me how tired you get. I felt like I was sleeping all of the time! I can’t even imagine being that tired and having to take care of other children at the same time. Once that passed I was okay for a little while.
I totally hated that in between phase…you know, the phase when you start to get a little bump, but people just think your fat. My husband would laugh at me because wherever we would go I would put my hand on my stomach just to let everyone know that I had a baby brewing…lol
I think months 5,6 & 7 were okay…but MAN…8 & 9? I was HUGE…gained about 55lbs and basically would eat your hand off if you would have let me. HUNGRY HUNGRY HUNGRY…oh and let the water works begin. I would sit at my desk and just start bawling my eyes out. Why? not sure ….
Then, I started getting those dreaded cankles… I was sooo swollen I could barely walk or waddle whatever you want to call it. I could not wait for this to be over, but that is when I started to say “I never got that memo.”
I had a few text book moments. One of my books said that you would hear a loud pop and then your water would break. I was laying on the bed, heard the pop and then jumped up to run to the restroom. Here is the part no one told me. Your water doesn’t stop ….it just keeps coming and coming. So, be prepared unlike me and bring lots of towels on your car ride. No fun!
Once I got my epidural life was FABULOUS…(not sure how girls do without..must be rock stars) having the baby was a piece of cake! It was the recovery that was completely awful. (I will spare you the details…)
& then…the crying starts again. I was so happy, but would cry for no apparent reason. Just so you know, post-partum is very normal and affects 1 out of every 3 new mothers. Your husband may not understand so sit him in front of the computer and google “post-partum.” Maybe they should write a pregnancy books for Men! The only problem is they would probably never read it:)
& continuing on…..
I never got the memo about my big belly becoming a deflated balloon. Maybe that is why I was crying. Oh man, how long before this thing goes away? I want my body back! I guess I was naive and just thought I would bounce right back into my pre-baby jeans. OH…& don’t start trying those bad boys on right away…I was wearing pregnancy clothes way AFTER the baby…& No one gave me that memo either!
It did take awhile, but 95% of my body is back to normal! Whoo..maybe baby #2 will be different……I sure hope I eat less, cry less and gain less weight.
& even though I HATED being pregnant…I will do it all over again just to have another baby just like Harper! She is the love of my life!